|Is everything as we think it is? |
Inspired by the book 18 minutes by Peter Bregman I would like to give you some thoughts on how to follow assumptions in life rather than experiences. Peter Bregman in his book advises you to first define 4 areas of activity that we care about and which we want to fight (about not being stuck in a workplace that you don't like, I will not talk again).
Assumptions and beliefs versus reality
Peter Bregman in his book describes the case when he went skiing. He assumed that since it is spring, it must be warm. It ended in frostbite of the toes. Another case - I had to go to the office about a week ago.
In life, we often follow our imaginations. We are looking for confirmations that something should be as it is in our opinion.
I assumed that since the day before it was warm and it is still summer, it means that it must be warm on that particular day. The next day I woke up with a sore throat and fever. I froze because I dressed too lightly. Of course, I checked the temperature before leaving, but I assumed that since it is still summer, it must also be warm.
It made me think. In life, we often follow our imaginations. We are looking for confirmations that something should be as it is in our opinion. Instead of going further, looking for new solutions, we expect the world around us to be what we are used to.
How to distinguish the illusion of beliefs from reality?
What is the best solution in this case? Learning from experience. Instead of seeking confirmation that something is perfect, we must find imperfections (of the project, and sometimes even ourselves). It is not easy, because if we live for many years thinking that something is perfect, it is hard for us to look critically at it with a critical eye.
In this case, it is worth asking someone trusted for an opinion. Maybe you will learn about your business, something you don't see. It's not so easy to accept that you may be wrong.