We met Piotr at the beginning of the first year of undergraduate studies, in August last year we celebrated the first wedding anniversary of the so-called paper anniversary. We had our ups and downs, as it probably happens in every relationship, but in fact we can boast of a successful relationship.
It takes time to create the perfect relationship. The need for mutual understanding. You just have to feel good in your company.
When new people learn that we have been studying and working together for several years, the question arises, "How do you do it? Don't you get bored with being 24 / 24 ?! ”Well, no, because we take studies, work and the blog seriously and focus on our duties.
We always try to spend a lot of time together, we discuss the implementation of ideas for a blog. We make decisions together. We also study for exams together, because it's easier for us. We do a lot of things together, but to be honest I don't feel too much about Piotr, although sometimes we all need a moment for ourselves.
You need to talk in a relationship, not keep quiet. You cannot allow a situation where the conversation is based only on commands and short messages.
Then Piotr usually plays on the console Xbox One
and I read a book or do something on the blog. Although we do something separately, we are still in the same room.
We have common passions, but we also have things that define us. For Piotr it is definitely football, for me reading books that I absorb in huge quantities (that's why I bought Pocket Lux Touch 2 reader
which I am very happy with).
Even if you think your second half's plan is totally crazy and you know it won't work, you are the one who needs to show understanding and support.
It is so with us that we both motivate ourselves. We often come up with different (sometimes completely unreal) ideas, but there is always support in the other person. And although it happens that we do not implement these ideas at all, and even forget about them - what counts is the feeling that you have a person who supports you in this.
Perfect relationship - does such a thing even exist ?!
At the beginning of our relationship, I took some things too seriously. It also happened that I was offended by anything. Fortunately, I'm over and today I'm trying to take things easy. Observing couples among our friends who are at various stages of the relationship, I notice some behaviors that characterize the subsequent stages of break-in.
In relationships that are just starting, you can see the ubiquitous jealousy (in our years it still occurs, but to a lesser extent, more reasonable), as well as frequent grinding about things that we, being at the current stage of the relationship, do not pay attention at all.
I believe that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Every relationship with another person has its better and worse moments. The most important thing is to cultivate the relationship all the time and not to fall into a routine. And above all talk. Talking is the key to everything.
Longer separation causes the pairs to move away from each other. Unfortunately, sometimes the realities do not allow for another solution.
I often see couples who gradually move away from each other. I never knew what the reason was, but over the years and observations I came to the conclusion that they lacked conversation. Over time, small lies also appeared that fueled more. For the most part, these couples have already split up, or are balancing on the border (reason, because there are children, which I think is not good. I think that when parents are not happy, the child is not).
So if you want your relationship to grow, and you, together with it, you need to talk to each other. I recommend taking some time after dinner, before going to bed or at any other time to talk to each other. About everything - how was your day, what did you achieve, what did you fail to do. Such a conversation will benefit both, because it is during the conversation that new ideas and solutions are born.
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