|Why are we so afraid of change?
The very word 'change' causes curiosity and slight fears. Even if the change is for the better, we are afraid of it because it carries some risk. Risk that something will go wrong. We are afraid of failures, which is why we are often stuck in places that do not quite suit us, but are safe. It is this sense of security that we are afraid to lose the most. It sometimes gives us the false hope that it may get better, although looking from the side, the situation sometimes seems hopeless. If you are wondering why we, as people, are so afraid of change so much, let me explain it in today's post.
Many people have their comfort zones. It may be a job we don't like, but we get a salary on time. It may be a relationship that torments us more often, but we are afraid to leave the fear of being alone. It can also be a place of residence where we pay little for the rent, but we do not feel well there.
Personally, I know the example of a person who has been in the workplace for many years, whom he does not like. Why? As she says, 'she has become incumbent'. It is never too late to change, but I understand this person a little. He is 40-a few years old and has been working in one company for 10 years. Although he complains about the workplace, the amount of his salary is certain that he will receive a salary every month.
How to find a new job?
Looking at the labor market and job offers, young people (preferably after graduation) with 10 years of experience are increasingly sought after. There are no such people, unless you go to extramural studies and work. I did it and it was a conscious decision. I analyzed all the pros and cons and found it best for me.
It was hard because I worked during the week and weekends (also on Sunday). I often had to work 12 hours a week to get time off for the weekend I spent at the university. This was my first job.
At one point I felt tired of being constantly at work, but also commuting. I had to commute to SKM (Fast City Rail, unfortunately only by name) and bus. The advantage of this work was that in slower moments I could study or mentally relax. It was then that I learned what direct contact with people and their service is and I hated it. I have never returned to work with a client.
How to control your fear of change
At the beginning I wrote that even a change for the better raises some of our fears. It is perfectly normal that a person sees not only the pros of making decisions, but also these bad sides. However, guided only by fears, it will be more and more difficult for us to take risks. And the risk usually pays off.
The first change of work accompanied me joy, but also fears - whether I would check in such a job, whether I am definitely making a good decision (in my previous job I knew my duties and also what to expect from my colleagues) and whether I really want to To change job. I was also worried when Piotr moved in, although he probably reads that he was not afraid of anything. I think it's also a bit of a women's domain that we have more concerns. I have the impression that Men are more brave in this respect and take risks more often.
Learn to control fear
Once I was terribly afraid of public speaking. I controlled my fear of the first of these appearances and later it went like a petal. Even after some time, I really liked public performances and when the opportunity arises, I speak on the forum. Controlling fear is difficult, but you can control it over time. I am one of those who panic very much, although I have recently learned to take risks despite my fears. They still accompany me, but I don't let them speak. This is probably the best way to fight.