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Why are we so afraid of change?

Why are we so afraid of change?

The very word 'change' causes curiosity and slight fears. Even if the change is for the better, we are afraid of it because it carries some risk. Risk that something will go wrong. We are afraid of failures, which is why we are often stuck in places that do not quite suit us, but are safe. It is this sense of security that we are afraid to lose the most. It sometimes gives us the false hope that it may get better, although looking from the side, the situation sometimes seems hopeless. If you are wondering why we, as people, are so afraid of change so much, let me explain it in today's post.

Comfort zones

Many people have their comfort zones. It may be a job we don't like, but we get a salary on time. It may be a relationship that torments us more often, but we are afraid to leave the fear of being alone. It can also be a place of residence where we pay little for the rent, but we do not feel well there.
Personally, I know the example of a person who has been in the workplace for many years, whom he does not like. Why? As she says, 'she has become incumbent'. It is never too late to change, but I understand this person a little. He is 40-a few years old and has been working in one company for 10 years. Although he complains about the workplace, the amount of his salary is certain that he will receive a salary every month.

How to find a new job?

Looking at the labor market and job offers, young people (preferably after graduation) with 10 years of experience are increasingly sought after. There are no such people, unless you go to extramural studies and work. I did it and it was a conscious decision. I analyzed all the pros and cons and found it best for me.
It was hard because I worked during the week and weekends (also on Sunday). I often had to work 12 hours a week to get time off for the weekend I spent at the university. This was my first job.
At one point I felt tired of being constantly at work, but also commuting. I had to commute to SKM (Fast City Rail, unfortunately only by name) and bus. The advantage of this work was that in slower moments I could study or mentally relax. It was then that I learned what direct contact with people and their service is and I hated it. I have never returned to work with a client.

How to control your fear of change

At the beginning I wrote that even a change for the better raises some of our fears. It is perfectly normal that a person sees not only the pros of making decisions, but also these bad sides. However, guided only by fears, it will be more and more difficult for us to take risks. And the risk usually pays off.
The first change of work accompanied me joy, but also fears - whether I would check in such a job, whether I am definitely making a good decision (in my previous job I knew my duties and also what to expect from my colleagues) and whether I really want to To change job. I was also worried when Piotr moved in, although he probably reads that he was not afraid of anything. I think it's also a bit of a women's domain that we have more concerns. I have the impression that Men are more brave in this respect and take risks more often.

Learn to control fear

Once I was terribly afraid of public speaking. I controlled my fear of the first of these appearances and later it went like a petal. Even after some time, I really liked public performances and when the opportunity arises, I speak on the forum. Controlling fear is difficult, but you can control it over time. I am one of those who panic very much, although I have recently learned to take risks despite my fears. They still accompany me, but I don't let them speak. This is probably the best way to fight.

12 Comments

  1. Avatar iTysia 16 February 2017 / 18: 52

    In my experience, I can only recommend that you be afraid and act 😉 And so seriously, something is always changing with me, I have become extremely open to everything around me and I have a lot of support in coming. If it wasn't for this, there would be no emigration and consideration of further travel options, because fear would eat me up 😉

  2. Avatar FUNtastycznyangielski 7 February 2017 / 08: 52

    I subscribe to Ola Rudzka's comment 🙂 I also finally decided to make major changes - change of job, starting a family, change of residence and I definitely feel proud of myself. Well worth it! I think that if we think about change at all, it means that there is something to it and something must be done about it.

  3. Avatar Ola Rudzka 24 January 2017 / 15: 11

    I have to say that courage to change is a huge treasure. Recently, I decided to take some "risky" steps in my opinion, which finally allowed me to get rid of excess tension and stress. It took me a while to find enough strength to change something, but one thing is certain - it's worth it! How much satisfaction and complacency we have then. I have to admit that I was proud of myself and that is a wonderful feeling. Greetings;)

  4. Avatar Women theme 23 January 2017 / 13: 36

    We are afraid of change due to pure egocentrism; it seems to us that what we know now is what we should know that we have found a way. And that is why we are most afraid of changing ourselves; because we have to admit to ourselves that it is time to abandon the current mental patterns, agree with someone else and start building again.

  5. Avatar prostoofinansach 22 January 2017 / 17: 21

    It's true, we're afraid of change. You can "fight" it, get used to it, but it is not easy, it takes some time 🙂

  6. Avatar Iwona - kwiatlawendy.pl 22 January 2017 / 15: 59

    We are afraid of change because most of us are mistakenly convinced that only stability and harmony are full of happiness. And that's not true. Changes are inscribed in our lives, they are needed and inevitable, because they allow us to develop and move forward. Greetings!

  7. Avatar A remarkable life 20 January 2017 / 13: 41

    I recently observed that we are also afraid of positive changes - those we are sure of. For me it was the interruption of my studies. I knew that I absolutely did not want to study it, although it was hard for me to take this first step. Sometimes it is worth asking the question "Where do I want to be in a year? How do I want my life to look like?", Then think about whether our current actions indicate our vision. It is also worth being aware that changes are not easy and we will be uphill once in a lifetime. 🙂

    • Avatar [Email protected] 20 January 2017 / 14: 18

      I suspect that this was dictated by the fear of admitting a mistake. Nevertheless, I would not treat it as a failure, because thanks to this experience you have found that this is something you do not like. If you didn't try, you would never know it! I wish you much success 🙂

  8. Avatar Izabela Miszczyk 20 January 2017 / 09: 59

    I think that many young women are afraid of changes in the field of work, including because the employer may have reservations about later maternity leave. And it often happens that he is stuck in one job, where you already have a permanent contract to calmly get pregnant and raise babies, and then you don't always want to change.

    • Avatar [Email protected] 20 January 2017 / 10: 16

      You reminded me of the situation when I went to talks. One of the employers, after learning that I had a husband, asked if I planned to get pregnant soon (he argued that it would be uncomfortable for him).

  9. Avatar Agnieszka Maciejewska 19 January 2017 / 19: 22

    If the changes are implemented in small steps, slowly, they do not arouse such fear. I know it after me.
    Best regards and welcome to me!

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